Hmm let the inner cat out...

This is on one of the ravelry lace lists:
"So disappointed.

We finally met with my husband’s sister to exchange Christmas gifts. For her, I knitted my first Icarus, and I thought that it turned out so lovely. I was even initially tempted to keep it for myself, it was so light and pretty.



So she unwrapped it and said, “Oh, another one of your little knitted handmade gifts.” How condescending. I’m broken-hearted. For her baby shower, I had knitted her a circular Pinwheel blanket in organic cotton, and I never actually saw her reaction. It was an insane baby shower. Ostentatious and insane. Over 125 guests, a $300 “baby shower cake ,” individual favors, etc. etc. But she had so many gifts that she’s still opening them up. So I didn’t know that she considers these things to be “little handmade knitted things.”

It’s a lovely alpaca/silk lace shawl. And it’s not like she’s a NYC fashionista or anything who might scoff at handknits. She crochets herself. She’s my age (35), and a bit of a laid-back hippy-chic casual girl. I just don’t understand. Then she went into this huge diatribe about how she learned how to knit as a young girl, but that she’s progressed to crocheting now, and can’t stand knitting."

People like her SIL drive me crazy but I think I've figured out how I would have responded and still have been polite. "Oh, let me see that...(after receiving) I'm sorry, I didn't realize you didn't like handmade (knitted) gifts. I'll get something else for you. This is too costly to go to someone who won't like it."

Someone else suggested on the list that she crochet one of those really ugly toilet paper covers and give it to her, explaining that she's progressed to crocheting too.